From what I understand, if we tend to the emotional needs of a toddler we can enjoy their company as they transition years later into adolescence. The problem of teenager-ism? I'm convinced it's rooted in ignorance of basic needs once a baby transitions into the toddler phase and needs to feel safe and connected when they're feeling their BIG feelings which kick in between 18 months and about 3 years of age.
SO many of us did NOT get help in toddlerhood or in the adolescent years and so we're grown up and struggling hard with what to do with our very big feelings.
Anger in some families is afeared. In some families it is the ONE big feeling everyone is allowed. In other families it's one of the emotions we are never allowed to feel in community. "Go to your room!" is a common plea heard in families where anger triggers all sorts of stuff in the adults.
I know many of us are not dealing with toddlers physically. I first watched this video when our twin boys were just getting to the toddler age and I thought this was mind-boggling and brilliant. What I didn't realize was that the concepts of BEING THERE for someone WHILE they're angry is super important...and something we not only need for ourselves but need to be able to be and do for others in our life.
Grab a cup of your favorite beverage and sit down with me for 5 minutes 11 seconds and watch this video of Chris and Jen as they model what is for some a never-before-seen event in a human life.
SO many of us did NOT get help in toddlerhood or in the adolescent years and so we're grown up and struggling hard with what to do with our very big feelings.
Anger in some families is afeared. In some families it is the ONE big feeling everyone is allowed. In other families it's one of the emotions we are never allowed to feel in community. "Go to your room!" is a common plea heard in families where anger triggers all sorts of stuff in the adults.
I know many of us are not dealing with toddlers physically. I first watched this video when our twin boys were just getting to the toddler age and I thought this was mind-boggling and brilliant. What I didn't realize was that the concepts of BEING THERE for someone WHILE they're angry is super important...and something we not only need for ourselves but need to be able to be and do for others in our life.
Grab a cup of your favorite beverage and sit down with me for 5 minutes 11 seconds and watch this video of Chris and Jen as they model what is for some a never-before-seen event in a human life.
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